The title of this article is a very famous song by a reggae artist Shaggy.
Listening to this song reminded me of a time in my childhood when my little sister and my elder brother used to fight. My sister would end up crying and my parents would come running and ask her what happened. Innocently or craftily (I don’t know to this day), she would point in my direction or call out my name. The repercussion for me was quite severe. This article is not a pay back, but just a reminder of how easy it is to blame someone else for whatever happens.
Very often our life takes unexpected turns and we end up in places we shouldn’t be or in the middle of a situation that we try to push on someone else. We often blame God or anyone around just to escape. A very simple example would be a traffic fine for speeding. I love fast cars and I love driving fast too. But if I were to get stopped or get flashed by a speed radar, the first reaction is one of disgust. I would blame the policeman, or the traffic system, or the guy who drove in front of me etc. The fact of the matter is that the moment I started driving, I am accountable for my own actions.
There are two lessons I want to draw from this.
1. Take responsibility for your own actions/mistakes
It’s quite easy to say “it wasn’t me” and put the blame on someone else. As psychologists usually say, the hardest part is to accept you have a problem or that you have done something wrong. We often hold on to our pride and make excuses, but the Bible teaches us to be accountable for our actions.
When King David realized he had sinned and committed adultery, he could just as easily have brushed the incident under the rug. He was the king after all, but he chose to repent before God and God honored him.
In Psalms 51:3-4, we read-
Because I know my wrong doings, my sin is always right in front of me. I’ve sinned against you, you alone.
There is an age old cliche that “Men never ask for directions” and “Women can’t read maps” which may be why they always say “Why don’t you ask someone?”
Today’s generation is so influenced by self-help books and self-empowerment that they feel ashamed and weak to reach out to someone for help. We try to swallow our sorrows and push ourselves each day, but one fine day the bubble will burst! Don’t wait to fall into a ditch to call out for help. God can heal you even when you feel weak, depressed, lonely or broken. Seek guidance from the Bible, leaders of the church, trusted fellow brothers or sisters who can pray for you and strengthen you.
The Lord is near to all who call,
He promised in His holy Word,
That if we draw near to Him,
Our faintest heart cry will be heard!